70 Years of Love: Lessons on Marriage and Connection

One big mistake a man can make after making love is not being with the woman properly. I want you all to actually be with the woman, or naked – here, your most vulnerable level is possible in a relationship with your partner.

When it comes to sex, the most important part isn’t in the foreplay or even the climax. No, no, it’s in how you treat each other after love making. You see, after you’ve made love to your partner, do you take a moment to whisper I love you? Do you kiss their forehead and let them know that your embrace is as strong as ever and that it craves them, not just physically but emotionally too?

If you don’t, my advice is to start doing it, because otherwise, it might seem like you’re just in it for physical pleasure. But love, true love, is seen in those tender moments after. After the passion cools down, do you look in their eyes and say “I love you”? Do you hold them, touch them like they’re still the most precious thing in your world? Do you speak sweet words, compliment them, cuddle up and fall asleep with their heart feeling warm and full?

Or do you make them feel used? Do you withdraw, quit touching, and become suddenly remote? Do you transform into someone unloving and self-centered, ignoring the very person who has just given their love to you?

Anyone can be sweet when they’re chasing an orgasm, but love, my friends, real love, is shown in how you treat your spouse after the pleasure is over and the climax has passed. When it comes to love, the point is not just to ejaculate; it’s about intimacy, about connection. Depending on that this is what preserves a marriage, what makes a relationship last forever. Bear that in mind and appreciate those who let you share their heart.