Reflections on a Life Well-Lived: The Art of Surrender

I've discovered that both life and love are unpredictable at my age. When you're younger, you may think certain things are true, but as time goes on, you may come to understand that experience can change your perspective. After all, desire merely grows stronger over time rather than diminishing.

I'm going to let you think about something I once heard from a female acquaintance about being submissive during a sexual act. She probably felt comfortable talking to me about this because she moved overseas when we were around 18 or 19 years old, and let me assure you that it's not shameful. I'm going to share it with you here in case any of you share my friend's sentiments.

She said "I wasn't always at ease with the idea of surrender. I was brought up to think that having control was admirable and that giving in was a sign of weakness. However, as the years went by, I realized that submission—real submission—is not at all about weakness. It has to do with trust. It's about letting go completely, knowing that you will find a deeper, more meaningful connection rather than losing yourself in the process”. 

She further added “I saw this with the support of a patient, self-assured companion. With him, I discovered the joy of relinquishing control and letting someone else lead, mold, and challenge me beyond the boundaries I had previously set for myself. In addition to serving as a recall of our time together, the marks he made on my flesh also served as symbols of our intimacy and mutual trust. Some people misinterpret this manner of being, taking surrender for pain and dominance for cruelty. However, this couldn't be further from the reality. This is about connection and the beautiful dance between vulnerability and power, not about pain. Trust is crucial. Setting, honoring, and respecting boundaries is essential. For those who are intrigued and sense something they can't quite put their finger on, I advise them to carefully consider their options. Seek a companion who recognizes that genuine domination is an act of concern rather than control. And if you decide to give up, do so knowing that, in the proper hands, it is a gift rather than a loss, not out of fear.” 

So remember being submissive is not a weakness. It’s a kind of strength not everyone will understand.